Researching
child name restriction laws has opened my eyes to a broad range of restrictions
that can be seen all over the world. Countries like New Zealand, Germany, and
Sweden all have laws that reject names that may cause offence to a reasonable
person. That is a law that I have stood for at the beginning of my research. I
have a personal connection to this argument, having come from a family full of
Gaylords and Gaylenes. I know for a fact that all of my brothers and sisters
were destroyed by these names. I never really put much thought into other
naming restriction like a name can not be too long or a child’s first name must
indicate what sex they are. In countries like Japan and New Zealand the
governments have pre-selected names where parents must choose their child's
name or they can submit a name to be added to the list. There are many other
restrictions around the world that I never even imagined, and I am happy to
have the freedoms that America provides for its citizens. I stand on the fence
because it is too difficult to decide if we should lose freedoms that have
shaped this country over a child’s name.
Would I
advocate the same solution now as I did at the beginning of my research? Why or
why not?
I still
do stand for a naming law that would restrict names that may cause offence. I
do not agree with giving the government the ability to intrude on our freedom
of speech rights by rejecting a parent’s wishes to name their child. The last
thing I want to see is the government imposing on the due process clause in the
fourteenth Amendment, depriving Americans of their freedoms. It is difficult to
draw a line on what names would be allowed and what names would not be
permitted. I still believe that someone should have the authority to step in
when a parent is trying to name his or her child something that is clearly inappropriate
or causes offence. Some parents cross the line and nobody is going to tell them
they are making a mistake and I strongly believe that someone needs to have
that authority.
What have
I learned that has allowed my arguments to become more substantial and
compelling?
I have
learned that fear and anger are the driving point behind not passing a law that
would restrict parents naming rights. No one wants to give up their freedoms
and we should not have to. Most people want to give their little bundles of joy
a unique name, they want them to stand out and be one of a kind. That is still
possible even with the restrictions I would like to see put into place. My goal
is not to stomp on the creativity of parents who want to change a name from
Jaden to Jayden, which does not hurt anyone. Names like JoyceLynn Aryan Nation
or Dewanna Bonner are names that I would like to see an end to. It is difficult
to stand in front of a group of people and persuade them when I have a past
that leaves me in a biased mindset. Just knowing that now opens my mind a
little bit in an attempt to understand the opposing side to this argument. I cannot
say that I see exactly what the other side sees, but I see main problems with
my solution, which would leave Americans on the chopping block. By allowing the
government to take some freedoms may lead to us losing more freedoms in the
future.
What have
I learned about the process that has allowed my argument to become better received
and accepted?
I think
the most important thing I have learned throughout this whole semester is that
being biased is like being blind in some aspects. At the beginning of the
semester I took offence when my argument was looked at in what seemed to be an ostracizing
view. I believed that my argument was not something that should be laughed at
or not taking seriously. After discussing my argument with some people I
realized that I could not be taking serious with the way I was going about it.
I still do not know the best way to persuade someone in understanding what this
argument really means. I still have issues where I let my troubled past make me
look like I am angry about my situation and just want to see a change. I want
my audience to know of my past, but in a way that would show them why we need
to have child-naming restrictions in the United States. I have been screaming
about how Gaylord has affected me since I was a young child, and I am tired of
screaming. The time has come to grow up and to realize that screaming will do
nothing. I have to acknowledge the other side of the debate and try to figure
out a solution that would benefit everyone, not just me.